I have a client who recently had a great week.
First, he won a new, ongoing client worth about $10K per month.
Then, after much consideration, he landed on a name for his new business venture.
And lastly, he put a ring on that new name by registering the name and buying the domains.
What a great week! That’s a reason to celebrate, right?
Not for him.
When I spoke with him, he had already moved on.
He had moved on to thinking about all the stuff that needed to be done.
The onboarding and the needs analysis for the new client. The finalising his website with the designer, writing the blogs, how to market his products…..and the list went on.
No celebration….not even an acknowledgement to himself of a job well done.
He actually thought I was a bit looney when I started cheering and saying congratulations.
It’s very easy to just move on to the next thing on the list.
The problem is when you jump from task to task or goal to goal without pausing to acknowledge and celebrate you unconsciously tell yourself something.
“You need to work harder”.
There’s been studies done on self-praise and these find that the psychological effect of immediately moving on is that you don’t receive the praise you need from yourself.
To be celebrated and praised is a basic human need. And to be able to praise yourself is a key step towards self-trust and self-love. Not needing others to praise you for the little wins builds resilience and grit.
It also helps to build momentum.
They say you can’t truly love someone else until you love yourself. The same goes for Self-celebration.
You can’t truly appreciate and accept the praise from others until you get in the habit of praising yourself.
Have you ever received praise from someone and brushed it off saying, “It was such a small thing” or “It was nothing really”?
And as you heard the praise, were you telling yourself something like, “It wasn’t that good” or “It wasn’t perfect” or “I made that little mistake on page 6”?
At that moment, you abandoned yourself.
Your job is to smile and say, “thank you”.
And say, genuinely, to yourself, “Well done you”.
It takes hard work to achieve your goals. And to not stop and appreciate the challenges you overcame or sacrifices you made is to abandon yourself and disregard the effort it took to get there.
And saying well done to yourself can, of course, be accompanied by a glass of bubbles, a treat or a gift.
Cheers to you!
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Emma Taberner is a qualified Leadership and Executive Coach, Speaker, Facilitator, author and self-confessed Human Behaviour nerd. With over 20 years Supply Chain industry experience and 10 years coaching and mentoring frontline leaders, she is passionate about helping small business owners and their teams to understand how their behaviours determine their leadership and effectiveness in business, relationships and in life. Emma works One to One, with groups, both face 2 face and online.
When she’s not building future leaders you can find her flying small planes, being in the outdoors, growing her own food and hanging out with her husband of over 20 years.